“How would you react if your SO told you that they were depressed and fighting the urge to self harm? Or they said they were thinking of suicide?”
I would I react? I would tell my fiancé I am PROUD that he didn’t hurt himself and I want him to get the proper help he needs because he is so important to me..
The military is always briefing about suicide and depression and if anybody brings it up they are given access to a psychiatrist or psychologist at medical. idk that comforts me that everybody is making sure that everybody is aware of their resources
“I am so frustrated. My "bff" is supposed to support me marrying my SO and she doesn't. She gives me a big lecture and thinks we're rushing. I've known him 10yrs an together almost a year.. I just got so mad!”
Maybe her views are different from yours, and as your best friend she is telling you her views because she cares. If she didn’t care she probably would have let you do your own thing and ignore you in the process
“to the anon about remaining celibate until marriage, i commend you 100%. like, for real. i've had three serious relationships and have kept that mentality all the way through. none of them lasted because i know i'm meant to be with the man i'm with now, and he wants to save himself for marriage, too. it's not always the easiest decision, but if that's something you feel strongly about, please don't compromise your beliefs for someone who isn't willing to respect them. stay true to yourself. <3”
“Anon who is staying abstinent with her bf, I think you should also tell him how you feel, however, if he leaves you for someone who will give him that, then he's not willing to wait for you. (correct me if im wrong, I'm guessing you're catholic or christian?) If he has God in his heart & really loves you but loves God even more, I am sure he will wait. You're worth waiting for, don't compromise for anyone, pleasing God is more important, be blessed!”
When I say “date to marry”, I mean I don’t date around just to have a good time or need a valentine or whatever the case may be. if I date somebody, it means I see potential in having a future with that person. Like marriage and so on.
“To the anon about waiting until marriage. I wanted to do the same thing and I was in 2 long terms relationships before I met Aaron (A year and 3 months each). I didn't sleep with either and even though they won't admit it, that's why they dumped me, because I didn't have sex with them. Once I met Aaron, everything felt so right that he was my first without us being married. I never regretted it because now he's my husband and still my first and my last. Just go with your heart.”
“My husband and I waited until we got married. If it's a mutual decision then trust that he won't. Talk to him about it and sure he will only reassure you that you guys can wait and be loyal to each other.”
“Husband is still in US for training for deployment but haven't seen him since January. When we get to talk it's always all about him and what he's doing and never about ME! I understand he is super excite and immersed in his training (which he should be!) but damn son. I am at home with our 3 month old baby all day and go days/weeks without talking or seeing another adult because I don't drive(horrible anxiety) and would like to talk about my plans for while you're gone. I need to find friends:/”
“Me and my boyfriend are choosing to stay abstinent until marriage (personal and religious reasons) but at the same time i know he would like to go forward. I'm scared of losing him to someone who would do something. Advice on how to bring it up...???”
Straight up tell him how you feel. That’s the way to go.
“My SO and I have been apart to long I don't think we have anything really connecting us anymore we kinda just feel like people who talk everyday and say I love you. Idk what to do to get that feeling back especially since we're across the country from each other for another year.”
Why not spicing things up? Have a Skype date and watch a movie? Or plan a date and both of you get all dressed up and eat dinner together?
Whether it’s long distance or not, many relationships feel this way at one point or another but it’s all about working together as a team and putting 100% into the relationship. If you feel like you’re not connecting like you used to, TELL HIM.
“Me and my boyfriend are both pretty young but we have known each other for give years and dated for one and came into our relationship with a "date to marry" plan. We would like to get married after 2.5 yrs but idk how to deal with all the negative comments. Advice?”
Aw YESSS Vincent and I were the kind of people who believed in “dating to marry”. Aw yesssss.
Okay to answer your question:
DONT deal with the negative comments. Don’t deal with somebody who has the time to put their judgement on your personal life and your decisions. Don’t give anybody a piece of your time if they are going to put you down
And why are people gonna be negative to you if you don’t even plan on getting married anytime soon?! I don’t get it
“You guys are too cute! My boyfriend is in boot right now & he's in GA and Iive in NJ. He might be stationed farther away and maybe even out of the US. How did you guys deal with the distance? Like Jocelyn, were you afraid that Vincent was going to come back changed in a bad way? How were you able to handle it?”
Aw you are too sweet 💜
Well honestly, I was the one having some doubts when Vincent went to boot camp. But once he left I realized that being with him meant me or to me than anything. (Of course school comes first but you know what I mean).
But I never really doubted Vincent would change. I mean I was a little nervous to see how and how to react to him being all serious and stuff but Vincent really tried his best at Family Day to show me he was the same person I fell in love with ❤️
Once we cracked a few jokes and were able to laugh again, I realized we never skipped a beat
I wasn’t worried about Joce. I saw boot camp as a priority I needed to take care of in order to be with her and be able to provide for her and a future family and her priority was school. Once we knew what our priorities were, we didn’t do so much worrying and instead I stayed focus in boot and her with college